How did I get here?
I am no different to you in that I got to a stage in my life where I was asking myself, is this really what life is meant to be all about? You see, let me be vulnerable here: At the age of 42 years old my 3rd marriage ended, I had lost another business and home because of yet another failed relationship, my children were all growing up and finding their own way in the world. I reached for alcohol and considered suicide, I felt alone and that I had failed myself and other people in my life - I hit the pit.
I was sad, heartbroken, hurt, betrayed, angry and desperate. I started to think about all of the terrible events and experiences I had encountered in my life. I thought, I can not have had to experience all this for nothing, there has to be a reason. I want to know why..
I started to pull myself together, I have gratitude for my children, for, without them, I fear, I would have left this world at that time, and probably many times before that too. My first grandson was born and I felt that I had to do something to change our lives and I knew it had to start with me.
I was frustrated with myself because I knew that there was an answer, I just couldn't work it out. I had always been interested in psychology, in particular behaviour, researching. I had always been quite a counsellor in my job as a hairdresser, I had the answers for everyone else, but not me.
I wasn't scared to self-reflect and I knew my flaws, I was very harsh with myself, beating myself up all the time.
I decided that I would not stop until I got the answer to stopping the cycle that was playing out in my life.
One night, after self medicating with wine once again, crying myself to sleep, I fell asleep on the sofa. When I woke up at 3 am, my mind was going ten to the dozen with words and ideas. I decided to write them down because I didn't want to forget them.
I wrote and wrote until my hands ached, as I wrote I cried, I felt a sense of relief. I fell asleep again and when I read it all back in the morning, the answers were there. I worked on this theory of freedom and from that night I felt more and more empowered every day. I restructured my scribbles and used my academic ability to form it into a systematic programme that is now known as The Empowerment Programme.
I retrained as a Practitioner life coach, so that I could deliver The Empowerment Programme. I piloted this at the domestic violence and abuse service for a year, working with service users, The Empowerment Programme had 100% success and survivors of abuse have gone on to break the cycles of abuse in their lives, repair and rebuild relationships with family, developed the confidence to go for well-paid jobs, start new business incentives - leaving their experiences and the residue aftermath that we are all left with, well and truly in the past where it belongs.
Even though I believe that our experiences and the knowledge we gain from them is the most valid qualification. I also knew that to have the credibility The Empowerment Programme deserved in the field of Mental and Emotional Health, I wanted a degree. Nothing could stop me now.
In 2018 I got a BA Hons in Education, Society and Development (Social Psychology). I am an accredited level 6 Master Practitioner Life Coach and The Empowerment Programme has been accredited as a level 6 Master level coach programme with The International Authority for Professional Coaches and Mentors. (IAPC&M)
I have unlocked the secrets of becoming free, to live a life of freedom, I started to notice that people treated me differently, noticing that I had a different type of confidence, I began to be respected for me. My children have grown into amazing individuals living in their freedom, and I know our negative cycle of behaviour has ended with me.
Over the past 5 years I have developed and put in place The 3 core elements and 4 corner stones to The Empowerment Programme to make the process and change quicker and more permanent.
I love my work and know it is my life's purpose to help people transform their lives, to support others to live their lives completely free of their abusive experiences. I advocate for breaking the negative cycles of behaviour and changing lives for good. This is incredibly fulfilling work and incredibly important.
“After my sessions with Louise Borthwick on The Empowerment Programme, I have experienced the biggest light-bulb moment I have ever had. Having suffered abuse in several forms throughout my life, I honestly thought I would recognise it anywhere. I was so wrong! I feel as if I've been dunked in a bucket of cold water and have woken up to smell the coffee after wading through 10 years of fog! Absolutely awesome, I am literally buzzing!!